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'Cleanliness is Next to Godliness'

I've often heard this growing up, most notably from the teachers at one of the Christian schools I attended. Then, I suspect they just wanted to coax us into cleaning our rooms more efficiently and obediently, but reflecting on it now, it rings truer than ever.


I've come to believe that God cannot live in a dirty space.


In this context, I take God to be the great force behind all of creation, or what some people may call 'Source' or 'The Universe'. That to which our spirit comes from and to which it connects. I believe all spirituality is an attempt to align our own spirit (the truest part of ourselves) with that Godly spirit. I believe also that the Godly spirit is pure. It is clean.


So within so without. A pure spirit requires a pure space.

In this post, I discuss why it's important to clean your environment to invite the pure light of the universe so that it may illuminate your path, uplift your spirit, and power your manifestations. Please keep in mind that these are my personal views. They may or may not resonate, but they are fun to share.


'You' Extends Past Your Body to Your Environment

Zen Philosopher, Alan Watts, was the first person to introduce me to the concept of 'me' going past my physical body and extending out into my environment, within a metaphysical frame. He argued that the being and the environment are one, with each giving rise to the other.


It was a radical idea for me when I first heard it but at the same time, it rang true. I believed it then and I believe it now.


The Energy of Clutter

Everything is energy. So in the case of your immediate environment, everything within it is vibrating at a particular energetic level. Clutter has its own vibration, that of stuck energy. When this stuck energy becomes the dominant vibration in your life, it can manifest in several ways:


Feeling Stuck

This can look like metal blockages, an inability to push through an entire thought and grow it into an action that can yield any sort of result. This can take effect in any (and every) area of your life, be it school, work, family situations, relationships, etc. All of this in turn results in stagnation.


Poor Stocktaking

Not knowing what you have or don’t have can result in wasting energy getting things you already own but just can’t find. This is true in the case of physical cleaning- if your house is cluttered, you will have a difficult time finding things and more than likely will end up buying more things that you already have, which will only add to the clutter.


However, this principle extends past the physical into every sphere of your life. Not keeping track of your ideas (mental) or projects (work/ school) can lead to them being lost and force you to start all over, thus wasting time and limiting your progress.


Clean Your House

Cleaning your living space is a simple and effective way to bring flow into your life. A deep clean (no stuffing things into closets) will help you to see the true state of your home. It will make you pull out everything you've stuffed into a dark cupboard and bring it into the light.


Then, you scrub the cupboards and prepare them to house only the possessions you wish to keep. With the cupboards clean, you will then neatly pack all that you wish to keep. The rest will find its way into a garbage bin and be discarded, or be lovingly given to someone whose life it will enhance.


In a spiritual sense, this is you taking stock of all the junk you've accumulated. This junk can take the form of limiting beliefs and poor habits that have gotten you to where you are now, but may no longer serve you in your next phase.

Make Space for your Manifestations

If you are calling something new into your life, be ready to receive it. This means letting go of whatever previously filled that void in your life so the universe can do what it does best and fill it. Cleaning, physically and energetically, is a way of preparing to receive so when your manifestations come, they stay. Make space for the new by getting rid of that which no longer serves.


How Cleaning Translates to Manifestations

You may be thinking: Okay, this is all well and good, but what does it have to do with my manifestations? Well, to implement these same ideas about cleaning your physical space to your energetic space can look as follows:


1. Spiritual Stocktaking

This will give you an awareness of the energetic pollutants in your life, such as your limiting beliefs around your abilities, money and abundance, relationships, etc.


2. Spiritual Cleaning

Having identified these limiting beliefs and all the ideas/ situations that leave you feeling low (sad, stuck, unsure, insecure, depressed, etc.), you can work to remove them so you can be energetically and spiritually ‘clean’.


3. Higher Vibration

Finally, you can start working to lift your vibration and frequency to align with that of all the wonderful things you desire through meditation, visualization, journaling, and whatever other tools and techniques work for you.


4. Manifestation

As we all know, when it comes to manifesting, like attracts like. A maintained increased vibration matching that of your desire leads to the manifestation of that desire.



It's All About Flow

I believe that flow is the secret to life. In my own life, I've found myself frustrated in situations only to find, upon deep meditation on the frustrating circumstances, that the root of all the distress was a lack of flow, caused most often by my blocking it.


Often this looks like hanging on to things I should be letting go of, things whose time has been served and that I need to graduate from in order to flow into the next phase of my life.

This can be a job, a relationship, a lifestyle habit- it can be anything, but the result is the same. When I fail to let it go, it becomes stuck in place and brings stuck energy into my life.


I suddenly feel like I'm trapped in place, no longer moving forward. I feel drained and anxious, even depressed. I can fail to see where these feelings come from, which is why introspection and a deep connection to self are important.


Find The Root

When there is stagnant energy in your life, it can be difficult to pinpoint the cause because the outcomes of this energy can manifest in different ways.


For example, if you cling to a job that no longer serves you, you may think that the outcome will be frustration within that job. While this is logical, it doesn't always hold.


Why? Because we are dealing with energy. What's true is that stuck energy will manifest in your life, but how is open-ended. Energy can take any form. So, clinging to a job that no longer serves you can create stuck energy that manifests as a clogged sink.

We should learn to recognize a lack of flow and not get hung up on the physical manifestations. Failing this, you'll fix the clogged sink and stay in your job without realizing what the universe is trying to communicate with you. Which will only make the universe try even harder, maybe this time in the form of a broken down car.

How the Spirit of Cleanliness has Manifested in My Life

This is certainly a new development in my life. I now clean all the time. Willingly. I’m upset by cluttered spaces and I find true, deep joy in decluttering them. I like to deep clean too, not just the surface-level ‘this looks clean so it’s good enough’ type of thing that younger me used to do.


I feel that my environment is an extension of me. If it’s dirty, I’m dirty. If it’s messy, my thoughts are jumbled. When I clean it, my mood lifts, and when it looks beautiful, I feel beautiful.


I've started to see myself as a vessel for the creative force of the universe. All that I desire seeks me, but it needs a clear pathway to reach me. I see cleaning as the creation of this pathway. Physically and spiritually. It’s wild.

Cleanliness and Spiritual Growth

While it is wild, I also feel this shift in perspective is a natural part of spiritual growth. My idea of ‘me’ has expanded to include my immediate surroundings. I think as I continue to grow spiritually, this idea of what ‘me’ is will also grow to include more until finally, it encompasses all of life, such that everywhere I look, I see myself.


All is one and one is all. Is that not what Oneness is?

Well, I can’t claim to know the answer to such a big question, but I am very keen to search for what can pass as an answer. Until then, I will continue to clean my house.


Sending love,

Nonjabulo




A good story doesn't just happen. It's purposefully crafted and bestowed with the certain elements required to make it so.


In this post, I'll discuss what those elements are, and how you can make sure to account for them in the planning stage of your story (if you plan), so you can know your outline is solid before you write a single word.


What is a Good Story?

A good story captivates you. In a book form, it's one that you can't put down. A good story has a solid plot that unfolds beautifully and is paced well; it has believable characters that you love or hate; it surprises and thrills you, and it makes you feel like a part of the story. You can't wait to finish the story because you simply must know what happens, but you dread it at the same time because you never want the experience of reading it to be over.


Elements of a Good Story

This list is not exhaustive and it is not ordered by importance.

1. Plot

The plot of a story is the sequence of events within the story. When planning your story, a clear plot outline is important so you don't write yourself into a corner. The plot of a story can be classified by what drives it forward. In this post, I focus on two types of narratives.


Plot-Driven Narrative

Plot-driven is where the emphasis is on the structure and sequence of the events within the story, and less on other elements like character development, for example. Most genre fiction falls into this category because most genre fiction is formulaic.


Character-Driven Narrative

Character-driven is when the story is more focused on character development than a richly developed plot. It's more about seeing how individual characters grow and change as well as how they interact with each other, and this is what drives the story forward. Most literary fiction falls into this category because it's often about examining the world through the experiences of the characters.



2. Inciting Incident

As an author, how you choose to begin a story is very important. It's very of then the difference between getting a reader hooked enough to read the entire book or having them abandon it after a few chapters or even pages.


Why? Because attention spans are short and getting ever shorter. An audience expects to be grabbed from the very first word and a good way to accomplish this is by opening your story with an inciting incident. An inciting incident can be understood as an urgent interruption to a character's life. The character is forced to react, and away we go.


3. Pace

Pacing determines the rate at which the action unfolds within a story, or how quickly or slowly a reader gets through the material. To understand pace as an author is to actively dictate this pace, it's to slow down or speed up how somebody reads the material, and that is a certain kind of artistic power. Used well, it ensures that the reader has the storytelling experience the author intended.


In this post, I discuss story pacing in more detail, specifically The pace of Unfolding (Story Arc) and the Pace of Reading.



4. Plot Twist

A plot twist is a literary technique that introduces a sudden and dramatic change to the expected plot beats/ outline. It's an interruption to the natural flow of events. A plot twist can be introduced at any point in the story, but it is most associated with the ending, where (if executed well) it has the most effect.


In this post, I discuss what makes a plot twist work as well as the different types of plot twists, namely, the classic twist, the mid-twist, and the double twist.


Chekhov's gun

'Chekhov's gun' is a dramatic principle that explains the concept of setup and payoff. It states that if a gun is seen in the first act, then it must be fired in the third act.


The principle behind it can be summarized as that every element in a story must be necessary, and all those that are irrelevant must be removed. Correct use of Chekhov's gun and the principle behind it is a good way to create a clean and neat story that doesn't have any loose ends.


Red Herrings

A red herring can be described as a subversion of 'Chekhov's gun'. It is a misleading clue designed to lead an audience to a false conclusion


5. Character Development

There is nothing worst than reading dialogue between characters that feel flat or following a character that feels manufactured. This can be because they are too perfect (because real people aren't), or so well calculated that they feel predictable in a way that makes reading about them extremely boring.


The very things that make a person real are the same things you'll need to focus on in the creation of your characters. In this post, I discuss how and why to base your characters on real people. I also describe a process of identifying the characteristics (strengths, weaknesses, quirks, etc.) necessary to make the characters feel real and consistent.



Encouragement: Just Get Through the First Draft

In this post, I've outlined a lot of information and pointed to further reading that will help you in your quest to write a good book. My goal is to help by proving resources, not to make you feel so overwhelmed you don't even start. So, if you're getting the feeling that maybe writing a book isn't for you, after all - Stop, take a deep breath, and listen to me.


You can do this. Writing a book is not as difficult as you think. It's not easy, but it's absolutely something that you (yes, you) can do. I've often had to remind myself of that very fact when I was in the trenches of a first draft. Often, just reminding myself that all I have to do is complete my word count for the day made all the difference.


So, I want you to do the same thing. All you have to do is complete your first draft. Get the story out of you- then you can spin it into gold. Don't lose sight of the goal and don't let it feel out of reach.


Conclusion

A good story doesn't just happen. It has a certain alchemy to it. This post is designed to act as a guide for you to make sure you know all the elements you'll need to write a book you'll be proud of. I don't claim to know it all (I do not), but I've made enough mistakes to collect some gems I wanted to share with anyone on a similar journey.


I hope this is useful. Don't give up.


Happy writing,

Nonjabulo







Finding out you’re pregnant is one of the most exciting moments for any mom-to-be. It’s the start of a whole new journey, one that’s worth documenting in great detail.

A great Pregnancy Journal is the perfect tool to help you do just that. It’s a way to document and preserve all the many special moments that come along with being pregnant. Having been pregnant before, I wish I had had a journal like this for my journey.


I think this is the perfect Pregnancy Journal.


Pregnancy Journal Features

This journal is a thorough and intuitive way to keep track of your pregnancy, whether it's your first or your fifth. Here is a list of what this Pregnancy Journal includes:


Weekly and Monthly Notes

Each month tells you how big your baby is, with space to make notes week by week. The journal also has space for you to record how you're feeling, how your baby is moving, what you're craving or have an aversion to and so much more.


9-Month Milestone Markers

There is something to celebrate and record every month of your pregnancy. Some of these highlights include:

  • Letter to your baby

  • How and when you found out you were pregnant

  • First doctor's visit

  • Baby announcement

  • Baby shower

  • Pregnancy photoshoot

  • Baby birth stats


Photo Journal

Space to put pictures of your growing bump month by month. This includes additional space for your favorite snaps from all your highlight moments.


Affirmations

A list of over 100 affirmations, broken up by month to help you stay positive and grounded throughout the entire pregnancy.


Checklists

Various checklists to make sure you have everything you need for all baby-related events. Journal includes:

  • Baby shower checklist

  • Pregnancy photoshoot checklist

  • Hospital Bag checklist

  • Birth plan checklist


A Pregnancy Journal Can Change Your Experience

I have always loved journaling. I love having a safe place to keep my thoughts in an organized manner. Pregnancy is a very specific life event, so I love the idea of a journal dedicated to that time in my life. That's why I created this journal.


A Tool of Empowerment

This Pregnancy Journal is a place to store important information that you can refer to when it comes time for your next pregnancy. This can help you to know what's normal for your body because every woman is different.


Having a reference to what happened at six months with your previous pregnancy can help to alert you if something is very different this time around. This can help you to be more empowered in asking the right questions and advocating for yourself when you engage with your doctors or birthing partners.


A Special Keepsake

This Pregnancy Journal is designed to be something you can pass down to your child when they’re all grown up and expecting a child of their own. Think of how special it will be for your child to read through your pregnancy experience as they go through their own, and how comforting. The hardcover book will last for as long as you do, so long as you take care of it.


Conclusion

I created this pregnancy journal for women who are embarking on their pregnancy journey. I created it to be a safe space for all your thoughts and feelings, fears and excitements, as well as all your milestones. You can find it here.

It has all the things I wish I'd known to think of when I was pregnant, and it's designed to be something beautiful you can keep and pass down when the time is right.


If you’re pregnant, I hope you love this journal and I hope it serves you and makes your journey just a little bit better.


Happy journaling,

Nonjabulo



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