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Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

What is Hailey Bieber's Kibbe Body Type?

I have determined her to be a Flamboyant Natural. However, she also has a strong Dramatic leaning/ undercurrent.

This post is a detailed account of how I got to this conclusion. I'll be focusing on the lines of her body and clothes as well as her essence. I also hope this is a fun read that helps people trying to type themselves (as well as myself) to better understand the lines and other things to look for.


The basis of this analysis is primarily the Kibbe system of body typing, and secondarily the Kitchener system for understanding Essence. These systems are unique and independent, but I like to use them together. Please keep in mind that I'm no expert and these are just my thoughts. They could very well be wrong. Anyway, let's begin.


You can Find Your Kibbe Type by taking the test here.


Let's take a look at the lines of Hailey's body:

Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

I see a boxy silhouette, moderate sizing, and musculature. I see both width and length, but the length is not overly prominent. The chest is open (width), but I also see sharpness in her legs and definitely in her face.


I think her torso is slightly short for her body which is why her length comes off as moderate-tall (and not clearly tall as most Flamboyant Naturals/ Dramatics). Her waist is defined, but her frame is much more dominant over her curve. i.e. even with a defined waist, her silhouette is still rectangular.

Elongation/ Vertical Line

The vertical line is observed in the silhouette between the shoulders and knees and has to do with how fabric falls on the body.

Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

Hailey has a moderately long vertical line. When I look at her, I don't get the impression that she is very tall. Not short either, she just looks regular, average height. Because of this, I think she looks her best in ultra-short or ultra-long lengths. The midi length is her least flattering.


Athleisure


Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

Hailey looks great in athletic wear. She looks fit, strong, cool, and sexy. This is especially the case when she observes a T-silhouette (slouchy top, slim bottom) as can be seen below:

Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

Hailey looks great in these outfits. This silhouette is made for her. It almost doesn't matter what she's wearing as long as she keeps these lines.


Neckline - an interesting observation:

Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

In these similar outfits, Hailey looks better as the neckline gets higher. This was surprising and confusing (since I was leaning toward her being a Flamboyant Natural) until I considered the outfits in their entirety. Her jeans (leg silhouette) play a more significant role in determining how good an outfit looks on her rather than an open neckline (shoulder accommodation).


While they are broad for her frame, her shoulders are not insanely wide, making different necklines viable for her. Her legs, however, are very slim and require a slim leg silhouette. When she does this, even a high neckline works great (third image to the right). When she doesn't do this, even an open neckline looks bad (first image to the left).


Oversized Blazer


Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

In these similar outfits, she looks better in the leather jacket with rounded edges (right) rather than the blazer with sharp edges (left). This is clear if we cut off her bottom half.


However, when we consider the entire image, she looks better in the first image (left) because her jeans are slim-fitted, which is vital for her. In the second image, the loose jeans kill the great fit of the leather jacket on her to half and the outfit is not flattering overall.


It actually blows my mind how imperative a slim-fit pant silhouette is for Hailey.


Without Structure

Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

These outfits drown Hailey. I don’t even get the sense that it’s her in these clothes. They are too big, loose, casual, and unconstructed for her. There is nothing slim and sleek to anchor them.


Flamboyant Natural Staple- Oversized Suit With Loose Structure

Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

Hailey looks good in these outfits, but not great. I find the pants to be too wide for her and in the case where she’s wearing sneakers (left, right) they are too casual and take something away from the outfit.


Oversized Structured Blazer + Slim Leg

Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

This is how Hailey wears an oversized blazer best. She needs a slim leg. The contrast of the narrow bottom to the wide shoulders emphasizes her T-silhouette and the outfit is in harmony.


Also, importantly, her details (shoes, bags) are polished. A pointed toe further elongates and narrows her leg. If she was wearing sneakers her outfits would lose elegance.


Silhouette Comparison


Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

I find this very interesting in showcasing Hailey's T-frame (slightly oversized top, very slim bottom) and how she needs to honor it to look her best. None of these fits do it correctly and none of them are her best.


I think Hailey looks her best in the middle look. This slightly oversized fit of the blazer is perfect. The pants are quite wide for her, but the look still works.


The silhouette of the first look is too narrow and would better suit a Dramatic. The silhouette of the last look is too wide and would better suit a pure Flamboyant Natural.


Dramatic Lines- Long

Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

These looks are not Hailey’s best and they show why she is not a Dramatic. She looks stiff and restricted in these dresses. This midi length also pulls her down and she looks shorter than she does in shorter dresses.


The middle dress is the worst because of the waist emphasis. As a Natural type, Hailey can handle waist definition, but not extreme waist emphasis like this belt creates. It looks like something is truncating her. The boots are also too bulky for her.


It's not that she can't pull off Dramatic lines, her strong Dramatic essence allows her to carry off the sharp lines, but they are not her best because they are not hers.


These long Soft Dramatic lines are even further and separate from her. These outfits require a more prominent curvature that Hailey doesn't have. They would be better suited to a Soft Dramatic like Bella Hadid.



Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

In these outfits- Dramatic lines, but with very little or no softness- Hailey looks better than the Soft Dramatic lines in the previous example. However, she doesn't look her best. These are not her lines and she looks very restricted and severe.


The leather coat (middle) is too tight and the shoulders are too sharp, and the silhouette is altogether too straight and narrow, i.e. no T-silhouette.


The leggings in the third image (right) are too tight and restrictive on her. The fabric is too shiny and synthetic looking (which clashes with her Natural essence). The jacket also cuts her at a weird place, it either needs to be a shorter crop or a longer (and wider) fit.


I think the first look (left) is the best because of how much softer it is than the others. The brown color is less severe than the jet black, the jacket is gently fitted with the way the belt falls creating a sense of flow, and the boots are slightly slouchy. All these stylistic details combine to create an altogether softer look that better accommodates her Natural essence.


Dramatic Lines- Short, Tight, Stiff

Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

This is Hailey at her best. The girl was born to show us her legs. Dresses this short elongate her legs (and thus her), and she looks much taller.


The blazer dress to the left is the better of the two, the blazer provides structure and sharpness through the lapels while the softer fabric of the dress allows room for movement and draping. The belt and metallic pointy shoe add more sharpness and edge. The blazer dress is Flamboyant Natural, but with a strong Dramatic essence.


The second dress (right) is purely Dramatic. It looks great, but not as good as the other one. It's altogether too stiff of Hailey. It doesn't allow her the movement she needs.


A Tale of Two Outfits- Dramatic or Flamboyant Natural


Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

This outfit is mostly Dramatic. The tight short black dress, the tall leather boots, the leather blazer, and the general all-black nature of the ensemble. The accessories (bag, shades) are structured but rounded. This gives this look an overall Dramatic essence.


The fit of the blazer is oversized, which makes it more Flamboyant Natural, but since this is also true for the second outfit, I'm going to use it as a control variable. The same with hair and makeup as they are similar.


Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

This outfit is more Flamboyant Natural than the one above. The top is very loose and oversized, and the blazer is oversized. This is balanced by sharp accessories: the bag, boots, and shades. The white also provides contrast against the black jacket, but the boots maintain her vertical. This gives this look an overall Flamboyant Natural feel.


I think Hailey looks better in the second look which is mostly Flamboyant Natural in fit, but Dramatic in detailing. This is again because this outfit further emphasizes the T-silhouette (with the oversized top) and allows movement in a way the other one doesn't.


Oversized Coat


Structured Coat

Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

Hailey looks okay here. I think these coats overpower her. They are too straight and stiff and the shoulders are too oversized and boxy. Her fit needs to be more relaxed, more Natural.


Unstructured Coat

Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

These fits are so much more harmonious with Hailey's body. They are oversized, but slightly so, and the edges are relaxed. There is structure and weight, but it is not severe. She looks great.


The gathers at the hands of the second coat are a bit too dainty for her, but still, the overall fit of the coat is great.


Flamboyant Natural Staple- Denim


Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

Hailey looks cute in these looks. She doesn't look like HAILEY BIEBER as we've come to know her stylistically, but she looks good. I can see her Natural essence here.


The first look (left) is the least flattering for me, I think because of the flair fit of the jeans. It's too Natural. The middle and right looks are okay, she looks like the girl next door, which is the exact Natural archetype.


Let's consider her vertical line again


Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

All of these looks have something off about them, that doesn't do much for Hailey, but they are also very similar. Seeing what works the least can help to identify what her body structure can't tolerate, which helps to understand it more.


Left:

I think this is the least flattering look. Her bottom isn't slim or sleek enough, this messes up her T-silhouette and makes her look bulky. The boots are too long and slouchy, which cuts her vertical line into three (almost equal) parts and makes her look shorter. The jacket has too many embellishments and her lipstick is too bright.


Middle:

I think this is the best look. The base of the outfit and the coat are great, the problem is the accessories. The bag is not sleek enough, the shape is perfect, but the woven design is too relaxed for her. The shoes are similarly too boxy and militant. A sharp-toe ankle boot would be perfect, and an unrolled pant hem would be more sleek and harmonious.


Right:

Again, the accessories and styling spoil this outfit. This hair doesn't work and these shades are too flashy. Her shoes are also too casual for her. A sleek bun, a sleek pair of boots, and her signature dark square shades would fix this look. A higher neckline top would be better too, but it's not that serious. Her jacket is fine because Hailey can handle a boxy, cropped jacket very well.


Takeaway: Hailey needs to preserve the sleek, long line of her lower body and her accessories and styling must be sharp and polished.

Misses

Flamboyant Natural Staple- Loose, long, knits

Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

There is not enough Dramatic in these outfits. She is drowned by a lack of structure and these fabrics are too textured for her.


In the first look, even her accessories are rounded, slouchy, and rouched which makes it worse. She looks like someone else. The accessories in the second look are sleek and thus better, but it's not enough to balance the outfit. An all-white outfit is also too light for her and washes her out.


The third look is the best of these three, but not her best. This look is also stabilized by the accessories.


Gamine leaning

Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

These are not Hailey's clothes, or they shouldn't be. She does not have a Gamine essence and so she looks childish in the first two looks (left, and right) and completely devoid of elegance and style. These looks don't come off as 'cool' on her, just bad.


The lack of structure, the oversized pants, the graphics, the haphazard use of color, as well as the bulky shoes- all, do nothing for her.


The look on the right is the best, because of the oversized leather jacket. It establishes the T-silhouette and makes the outfit work. Now she looks cool and low-key. Notice how the colors are subdued and the palette is clean.


Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

I dislike all these outfits very much. The fit of the jeans in the first outfit is too loose and the shoes cause unflattering bunching at the calves. The top looks cheap. I know it's Balenciaga because it screams it, but that kind of clothing cheapens Hailey's grown and classy essence.


The jeans in the second look (middle) are crazy. The giant holes, the flare leg, the string tie, and the zip detail are all too much. This kind of excessive detailing takes away from her.


The third look (right) looks like it came from two different outfits- serious up top and casual down low- and they don't mesh together well. She needs a streamlined and cohesive outfit. She looks like someone’s Aunty.


I think the jacket is too long and narrowly fitted. The sweater and shades are fine. The jeans are awful. Mom jeans do nothing for Hailey except make her look wide. The sneakers are too casual for this very confusing outfit.


Romantic Essence


Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

Hailey does not have a soft yin/ lush Romantic essence. Her femininity is strictly more on the sexy side, expressed through the bigger, sharper yang lines of her frame. These cute and girly dresses are very separate from her and actually make her look less feminine.


The first outfit (left) is quite bad. The ties in front and the length of the skirt are the worst offenders. There is no structure and she completely loses shape. The pattern is childish. It’s just bad.


The second look (middle) has a great length but the fabric is too lightweight and delicate and the ruffles make it even more so. Overall, it’s not terrible but it’s also not near being good.


The third dress (right) is lovely, it is simple and feminine but not girly. However, the pattern is awful (for her) and it throws off the entire outfit. But imagine if the dress has a light, gentle pattern or even imagine it in black.


Suddenly all we would see is the fit, which completes her Natural lines, and she would look ‘free and easy’ which is what I think she was trying to achieve with all these looks.


Ingénue Essence

Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

These pictures demonstrate just how much Hailey doesn’t have the Ingénue essence. She is not girlish and cute, she is grown and sexy. She doesn’t look cute in these girlish styles, she looks like she’s trying to be cute. It’s very separate from her.


Cropped Silhouettes


Oversized + Cropped

Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

These looks are unflattering. Hailey is lost in these outfits and her body both disappears and is made wider at the same time. The styling is too casual and overall she looks disheveled.


Fitted + Cropped

Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

Yes! Love them, all of them. This cut at her waist, which is naturally high, follows and highlights her lines perfectly. The open necklines are a win. The accessories are perfect.


Even in the first look with the sneakers and slightly wider pants, she looks perfectly casual. Because she got her basics right, the look is complete and harmonious.


In the third image, the slouchy cardigan creates a relaxed T-silhouette. She looks great.


Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

More examples of how this high waist, slim- leg and cropped jacket silhouette works so beautifully on Hailey.


The middle outfit is even more flattering because the oversized cropped jacket creates a Dramatic T-silhouette, and the monochrome look offers elongation by maintaining her vertical. It’s perfect.


The third look shows this at play with a skirt suit. This is obviously a casual look, but this outfit would look even better with a shaper, stiffer fabric and cut.


Overall Best: T-Silhouette

T-Silhouette can take different forms: Cropped + structured or Midi + unstructured. Slouched, oversized shoulders, slim (not skinny) leg. High waist, super short and tight, heavy fabrics. Sharp lines.


Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

This is Hailey’s best silhouette and this picture shows the different variations it can take. Long or short, as long as her outfit has a strong T-silhouette she looks amazing.


Essence- Hair


Hailey Bieber best hairstyles

Hailey’s hair is best when it’s clean and sleek. Her Dramatic essence shows up most of her face (and in her legs), so her hair has to match it.


In the top row, her hair is at its best; polished and sleek. She looks great.


In the bottom row, we can see how her face starts to lose its power and sharpness when her hair is curly, tousled, or otherwise not perfectly polished and sleek. She doesn’t look bad, she just looks less pristine.



Essence- Makeup


Hailey Bieber best makeup

Hailey looks her best in Natural makeup. She can handle a slightly intense eye, but nothing drastic. Her best lips colors are natural shades.


Hailey Bieber worst makeup

These are Hailey’s least flattering makeup looks. The two images to the right show her in very intense dark lipstick shades. They overpower her delicate coloring and look very off.


The middle images (and top right) showcase eye makeup that is too intense. Again, this overpowers Hailey’s face.


Hailey’s Dramatic essence calls for visible makeup and styling. The bottom right image shows her in ‘no makeup’ makeup. This is very underwhelming for her and the lack of sleekness in her hair also creates an overall ‘undone’ look which is not flattering on her.



Now, let's consider these looks:


Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

I…don’t like this look, but I think it works and I’d like to discuss why.


The dress is too unconstructed for Hailey and it literally does nothing for her. I think it’s too structureless even for the most Flamboyant Natural person, let alone Hailey.


However, she did everything else right (hair, makeup, and shoes), such that the sum of those sleek, sharp, Dramatic elements balanced out the dress.


The result is a poor look, but one that is being pulled off. I find this very interesting.


Hailey Bieber Kibbe Body Type + Style Analysis

This look is a risk that pays off. She went in a direction that is opposite to what is ‘best’ for her, but she grounded it in the elements that are fundamental for her and it works.


The dress is a bit too whimsical and lightweight, but the bodice is sharp and fitted and the slit is high. The pink hair is a tad too Romantic and girly, but the cut is blunt and all of it is pulled back. The vertical line is long, the shoes are sharp.


Both these looks show that the 'rules' are just guides. Once you understand them and know what elements are vital for your personal styling, as long as you get them right- you can play around, experiment, and still look great.
Fashion should be fun.

Best Looks:



All the sharp lines. All the drama. The rounded shape of the glasses balances out all the sharpness. The hair being slightly loose does the same thing. It’s perfect.



This is a clever design for her particular torso. I think this dress works precisely on her in a way that it couldn’t on something else. I mostly love the embrace of her body lines.


The styling is perfect- the hair, jewelry, and makeup (the dark lip adds drama or the look would be boring). She looks stunning.


Conclusion

If I had to type Hailey, I would say she is a Flamboyant Natural. However, she also has a strong Dramatic leaning/ undercurrent. Both of these style lines have to be accommodated for her to look her best.

I'd love to know what you think. Please let me know if you came to the same conclusion or if you'd type Hailey differently.


You can Find Your Kibbe Type by taking the test here.


Talk soon,

Nonjabulo

Book Review: An American Marriage by Tayari Jones

This post will be a review of An American Marriage by author, Tayari Jones.


I've been meaning to read this book for a while. It was published back in 2018 and I remember all the hype and publicity it received around that time. I finally came across it last year and picked it up. This past week I chose it as my companion on our most recent trip. I'm so happy I did.


Acclaim and Accolades for An American Marriage

2019 Aspen Words Literary Prize, winner

2019 NAACP Image Award for Outstanding Literary Work in Fiction, winner

2019 Orwell Prize for Political Fiction, longlist

2019 Women's Prize for Fiction, winner

2018 Los Angeles Times Book Prize for Fiction, finalist

2018 National Book Award for Fiction, longlist

Chosen for Oprah's Book Club 2.0 in February 2018


What is An American Marriage about?

This is a story about what it means to be a black man in America, particularly in the American South. It's about systems designed to oppress and otherwise disenfranchise people of color, and how those legacies endure reaching out through time to snatch the dreams of black men who thought the plights of their fathers and grandfathers were finally far enough to miss them.


The epigraph of this novel reads, "What happens to you doesn't belong to you, only half concerns you. It's not yours. Not only yours," and I think in many ways, this is what this book is about; how the events that happen to us don't just affect us.
They entangle immeasurably and irreversibly all those we love and even those we don't, so that, in the end, a single event can reshape multiple destinies.

It's also a story about what is owed and how that is measured. It's a question of what is fair and who decides. In Roy and Celestial's marriage, they promise each other forever, but is that fair to call on as the years of Roy's imprisonment drag on? Given her commitment and Roy's innocence, is it fair for Celestial to want to enjoy her freedom and have a full life not attached to being a prisoner's wife? Is it fair for Roy to demand that they pick up where they left off before he went away because his life has been on hold since that moment?


Storyline (Blurb) of An American Marriage

Newlyweds Celestial and Roy are the embodiment of both the American Dream and the New South. He is a young executive, and she is an artist on the brink of an exciting career. But as they settle into the routine of their life together, they are ripped apart by circumstances neither could have imagined. Roy is arrested and sentenced to twelve years for a crime Celestial knows he didn’t commit. Though fiercely independent, Celestial finds herself bereft and unmoored, taking comfort in Andre, her childhood friend, and best man at their wedding. As Roy’s time in prison passes, she is unable to hold on to the love that has been her center. After five years, Roy’s conviction is suddenly overturned, and he returns to Atlanta ready to resume their life together.


This stirring love story is a profoundly insightful look into the hearts and minds of three people who are at once bound and separated by forces beyond their control. An American Marriage is a masterpiece of storytelling, an intimate look deep into the souls of people who must reckon with the past while moving forward—with hope and pain—into the future.


What I Liked About This Book

The Writing

This is book incredibly well written. It's easy and it's simple and it's full of character. Jones has a clear voice that I would be able to point out from various samples, this is very important because it gives her writing power. It makes the story feel as though it could only be told correctly by her, in her voice.


Her voice is also very authentic, which is perhaps why it's so real and distinct. She sounds like a woman from the South. When I read that she was born and raised in Atlanta, I wasn't a bit surprised. She embodies this and she has somehow managed to not let what is most authentic to her be polished or ironed out of her voice. As a result, I believe what she says and her writing has the weight of truth.


Heavy and Light

This is more a testament to Jones' literary prowess. To be able to write on such a heavy subject matter as being a black man in America, especially the American South, as it pertains to incarceration and its unjust repercussions not just for the person behind bars but also for all the people that they are connected to- to be able to write truthfully on a subject of this weight and magnitude is difficult enough. To do it with such a light hand and gentle strokes is the work of a master.


At no point in the story was the gravity of the plight of the characters lost on me, but as I carried that weight from page to page, it didn't feel burdensome. I'm not sure how she pulled that off, but I am thoroughly impressed by it. I appreciate also that the story didn't disintegrate into facts and statistics about mass incarceration, it remained the story of Roy, Celestial, Andre, and their parents.


The Realness

I think Jones has a gift for connecting to and exposing what is real. For me, sex was a tool she used to do this most obviously. Sex forced on the older woman who swears Roy is the perpetrator is how the central nightmare of the story begins. When Roy is released from prison, it's the sex of Davina's loving body that brings him back to life and to feeling like a man again.


When Roy finally confronts Celestial, it's through sex that she tries to force and jumpstart herself into who she used to be when her love and her loyalty still belonged to him. Jones earths the story this way, always bringing it back to the raw and the real. She does this very well.


The Characters

I loved these characters. They were so complete. They were three-dimensional; loyal and selfish, loving and hateful, stuck in the past and clutching at the future. They were each many things, the most important being real and completely believable. They were also distinct from each other, they felt like different people I could meet out in the world.


I appreciated too the uncertainty that they often experienced, especially in the case of Celestial and Andre as they reasoned through their desires and their actions, it made them real and honest.


What I Disliked About This Book

Sense Of Place/ White Room Syndrome

Not that it was particularly important for the narrative, but I sometimes lacked a sense of place in this story. This will happen with narratives this heavily driven by dialogue and inner thought, so I feel it's a critique that should be taken with that understanding in mind, but I liked it when the author anchored us in space and time and I wished she did it more.


Verdict: 4.5 Stars

This was a powerful book, wonderfully written and deeply engrossing. It was definitely worth the hype, both for its literary merit as well as its cultural relevance. The experience of the author shines through in how she's able to handle such a heavy subject matter with adequate care and depth, but also levity and ease. It was an easy book to pick up and a joy to read, even when what I was reading was tough to take in.


I highly recommend this book and this author. I will be looking for more of her work to dive into because I thoroughly enjoyed her voice and her style.


Let me know if you pick it up and what you think of it.


Other Books by Tayari Jones:

  • Silver Sparrow

  • The Untelling

  • Leaving Atlanta


Happy reading and talk soon,

Nonjabulo


This post is a review of Dele Weds Destiny by debut author, Tomi Obaro.


I found this book on an online list of the 'best debut novels of 2022' and the cover made me grab it. I could instantly tell this was a book with African flair and all my partiality came into play. The blurb revealed it was set in Nigeria and the promise of sticky warmth, bright colors, and delicious flavors that the pages held convinced me to pick it up.


Acclaim and Accolades for Dele Weds Destiny

A VANITY FAIR BEST BOOK OF THE YEAR


What is Dele Weds Destiny about?

At its core, this is a story about friendship. Lifelong female friendships that endure through time, trials, and triumphs; through personal and collective change.


It's about friendships that help us learn who we are in the beginning and that serve to remind us of who we are later on.

This is also a story of mothers and daughters. Both Fumni and her daughter, Destiny, whose wedding the three friends have gathered for, as well as Etinan and her daughter, Remi, who is seeing her mother's home country and the environment that shaped her for the first time. In both cases, we see the struggle to connect between the two generations, even when the desire is there. In Etinan's case, we see this complexity reach a third generation in her strained relationship with her own mother.


Through it all, we see how this friendship has anchored each of these women and seen them through many transitions in their lives. We see how it's grown them, shaped them, and, in some cases, hurt them. We also see how it's healed and nourished them.


Storyline (Blurb) of Dele Weds Destiny

The story of three once-inseparable college friends in Nigeria who reunite in Lagos for the first time in thirty years—a sparkling novel about the extraordinary resilience of female friendship. Funmi, Enitan, and Zainab first meet at university in Nigeria and become friends for life despite their differences. Funmi is beautiful, brash, and determined; Enitan is homely and eager, seeking escape from her single mother’s smothering and needy love; Zainab is elegant and reserved, raised by her father’s first two wives after her mother’s death in childbirth. Their friendship is complicated but enduring, and over the course of the novel, the reader learns about their loves and losses. How Funmi stole Zainab’s boyfriend and became pregnant, only to have an abortion and lose the boyfriend to police violence. How Enitan was seduced by an American Peace Corps volunteer, the only one who ever really saw her, but is culturally so different from him—a Connecticut WASP—that raising their daughter together put them at odds. How Zainab fell in love with her teacher, a friend of her father’s, and ruptured her relationship with her father to have him. Now, some thirty years later, the three women are reunited for the first time, in Lagos. The occasion: Funmi’s daughter, Destiny, is getting married. Enitan brings her American daughter, Remi. Zainab travels by bus, nervously leaving her ailing husband in the care of their son. Funmi, hosting the weekend with her wealthy husband, wants everything to go perfectly. But as the big day approaches, it becomes clear that something is not right. As the novel builds powerfully, the complexities of the mothers’ friendship—and the private wisdom each has earned—come to bear on a riveting, heartrending moment of decision. Dele Weds Destiny is a sensational debut from a dazzling new voice in contemporary fiction.


What I Liked About This Book

Inner Drives

This book explored inner drives well. It was very interesting to me to uncover why the characters were the way they were. Why Etinan would jump into a marriage halfway across the world with the first man who asked her; why her daughter, Remi, mixed race and struggling to find a place she belongs, would cycle through fads and self-destructive behaviors and borderline extremist/purist political views.


Why Fumni would marry a man seemingly determined to ignore her entirely and feel he was a worthy husband so long as he provided handsomely for her and their child. Why Fumni's daughter, Destiny, would agree to marry a man with all the signs of turning into her father and thus recreating a marriage like her mother's because it pleases her parents. Why she would ignore her own desires in love and in her career to fulfill those handed down to her by parents.


The author does a good job of sharing backstories so that we truly understand the characters and see the hidden fears and desires that motivate and drive them to these otherwise baffling choices.


The Landscapes

This book takes place mostly in Nigeria, in Zaria where the ladies first met at university, and then later in Lagos, where they reunite for the wedding. Even having never been, I know Nigeria is a vibrant, textured, and chaotic place. Without overdoing it in such a way that it distracted from the story, I think Obaro did a good job of contextualizing the 'where' for us and making the setting real.


What I Disliked About This Book

Novice

While I thoroughly enjoyed it, in some ways this book read like a first novel, which is criticism you should take with a grain of salt because this is her first novel. However, I point it out because a lot of my critiques will stem from this, these are pitfalls that many new authors tend to fall into and that generally correct themselves as they get more seasoned.


Telling

'Show don't Tell' is perhaps the first (and best) writing advice that most of us get, and for good reason. Showing creates an immersive experience that the reader can lose themselves in while Telling turns reading the story into a job. Telling often provides so many details that reading becomes about sifting through them.


I wish the author trusted us enough to figure out for ourselves some of the things that she tells us. They were not all necessary. Some gaps (not plot holes or omissions that would render the story incomplete) would have been good to draw the reader in and make the experience more active and dynamic for us. With the author doing all the work, it lets the reader fall into a passive role which lessens the joy of the reading experience.


Character Development

I enjoyed the characters in this story. They were well-fleshed out and believable for the most part and they all did their part to drive the story forward. However, I also found them to be more agents to drive the story than three-dimensional characters. They each were too much of something that they were required to be for their character to work within the story.


Fumni had to be almost blindly ambitious and driven by appearances and external factors. If age had thawed her out and she became more self-aware and emotionally connected to herself and others, like her daughter, then the storyline would crumble. So, there is a necessary lack of character development that I find very limiting and, for lack of a better word, armature.


Verdict: 3.5 Stars

I think this is a great book. It's fun, it's easy to pick up and read. The subject matter and setting are very interesting and I'm glad I picked it up. It wasn't as easy for me to get completely lost in it as I would have liked and I think some things could have been done better.


That said, I enjoyed Tomi Obaro's voice and I have no doubt that she will continue to get better as her career progresses, something I look forward to seeing.

Let me know if you pick it up and what you think of it.

Happy reading and talk soon,

Nonjabulo

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